The tongue has the power of life and death. I chose to speak life not death. The tongue can either curse me or bless me. This is why G-d corrected me when HE told never speak this way to HaShem ever again
What comes out of my mouth can either curse me or bless, curse or bless my family as well too.
“Moses then reviewed with the Jewish people the laws regarding divorce, exemptions from military service, conduct when taking collateral on a loan, kidnapping, and the skin disease known as tzara’at. This disease afflicts mainly people guilty of improper speech, just as Moses’ sister Miriam was struck with it when she voiced her disapproval of Moses’ behavior in divorcing his wife Tziporah.
[Moses told the Jewish people,] “Remember what G‑d did to Miriam.” Deuteronomy 24:9
It is important to realize that Miriam did not lie or even criticize her brother, Moses. She merely voiced her disapproval of his behavior without bothering to discuss her grievances with him privately first. Nonetheless, Miriam was immediately punished for having spoken against Moses.
This teaches us how careful we must always be when we talk (or write) about other people. Even seemingly harmless discussion can easily slip into gossip or slander. Rather, we should always be careful to speak and write constructively. If someone’s behavior seems inappropriate, we should clarify matters with them privately, thereby sparing everyone the grief that inevitably results from misunderstanding.1 Likutei Sichot, vol. 18, pp. 145–146.